Chapter 1,229: Got a Lesson!

"Are you saying that I caused him to become like that?" He Xiyan didn't think that it was she who caused Ye Hao to have such extreme behavior.

Professor Lan sighed and shook his head at He Xiyan.

"Of course you can't say that it was directly caused by you. He has problems too. He has a flawed personality. He grew up in a single-parent family and never received fatherly love since he was a child. He is actually very sensitive inside. And according to your information, he was betrayed in a previous relationship, so he will be more sensitive. When you and your ex-husband had frequent contact because of your child, and even some photos were taken by someone and he saw them, he was stimulated, so he had some extreme behaviors later, cold violence against you, and even directly hit you. His behavior is related to his temper and personality. Of course, he lost control like this because he cared too much. He loved deeply and hated deeply. He was afraid that you didn't love him but loved your ex-husband, which made him go to extremes and do many things to hurt you."

Speaking of this, Professor Lan lowered his eyes, and something flashed in his eyes, but He Xiyan didn't catch her strangeness.

Professor Lan drank a few more sips of water. She was a little dry in the mouth after talking so much.

At this time, He Xiyan sighed, shook her head and said, "Actually, he and I are not suitable. If he had found an unmarried girl to marry, he might not have divorced." He Xiyan actually knew how Ye Hao felt about her, so even if he really did it to her twice, she didn't hate him.

Professor Lan frowned suddenly, put down the water cup, and looked at the woman in front of her. She knew that she was hurt a lot in her relationship, so her thoughts were a bit extreme, but they were more extreme than she thought.

"Why do you think you two are not suitable? He Xiyan. Do you think that if you hadn't given birth to your ex-husband's son, you wouldn't have these conflicts with him? Life is very long. At least every couple I have seen, whether they have been together for a few years or decades, have more or less conflicts. Many of them have encountered the same problems you have encountered, but many couples have resolved these conflicts and walked through them hand in hand."

"A harmonious marriage should be that two people work together, grow together, face problems together, and find solutions together. But you and your ex-husband did not do these things. You both like to do things according to your own ideas, ignore each other's feelings, and don't communicate well. When you encounter problems, When you are in a relationship, you like to deal with it in your own way, and he likes to use cold war and cold violence, so your conflicts are getting bigger and bigger, and eventually your marriage is in trouble. Think about it, if you could take your husband with you every time you go to see your children, would he still be so angry? And if you can call him to take care of your sick son, he won't take the whole family out for a trip and leave you alone at home. Some things can be discussed and solved, but you both go to extremes, and neither of you will tolerate and understand each other, so that the conflicts that can be resolved instinctively are infinitely magnified, and eventually ruin your marriage. "

When Professor Lan said these words, his tone was obviously strengthened, and He Xiyan bit her lips tightly.

She could hear that Professor Lan's words did not seem to persuade her, but more like educational criticism.