Chapter 1043 Xiaoyu, You Can’t Be Too Arrogant at Home

On the second day of the Chinese New Year, Li Ye followed Wen Leyu back to her parents' home.

As soon as the family entered the door, Xiao Douer ran in excitedly and kowtowed to Teacher Ke.

"Happy New Year, Grandma and Grandpa."

Xiao Baoer followed closely, lying on the ground and kowtowed, his little head knocking on the ground, making a bang bang bang sound.

Then the two little guys raised their heads and looked at Teacher Ke eagerly.

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Teacher Ke blinked and realized that they were waiting for his New Year's money!

She quickly took out the New Year's money and gave it to the two children, smiling and saying, "It's just a New Year's greeting. Is it necessary to be so serious? If you knock your little head, you won't be smart anymore."

"Thank you grandma, thank you grandpa."

Xiao Dou'er took the New Year's money first, and then said seriously, "My father said that kowtow is a cultural heritage. You can kowtow if you want to, and it doesn't matter if you don't kowtow, but since you kowtow, you must be sincere."

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Teacher Ke laughed and teased Li Ye, "Li Ye, sometimes I really don't understand you. Sometimes your thoughts are far more radical than those of us old guys, but sometimes you are more conservative than those antiques."

Li Ye smiled indifferently and said, "Mom, it's just a traditional custom for the New Year. There is nothing conservative or not conservative."

Teacher Ke said meaningfully, "Times are developing. Some things that are not adapted to the times will sooner or later be abandoned by the times. Some dispensable traditions don't need to be so persistent."

Teacher Ke and others don't know how to kowtow, so she doesn't agree with Li Ye's parenting methods.

Li Ye nodded and said, "Maybe when Xiaodou'er's generation grows up, these customs will disappear."

In the 1980s, many people thought that the tradition of kowtow would soon disappear, but decades later, many places in Dongshan Province have preserved this tradition.

Some people say that kowtow is a feudal custom that should be abandoned, but is the tradition passed down by the flower-growing family for thousands of years really a useless dregs?

In fact, it is not. Anyone who has participated in the scene of worshipping ancestors on the first day of the New Year in Dongshan Province can feel the personal identification with the family.

The cohesion of the clans in the north is actually weaker than that in the south. They are using this form to strengthen the connection between blood clans and try to maintain the cohesion of the clans.

This cohesion seems to have no effect at ordinary times, but when it is really useful, it may affect a lifetime.

For example, if a child is admitted to a good university, but cannot afford it because of poverty, then the people in the family will raise money for him to go to school even if they curse and feel pain.

But if you have been away from the family for a long time and don't interact with them during weddings and funerals, when you are in trouble, all the aunts, uncles, and uncles will only laugh at you and will never help you.

So in the era of increasingly "atomized" social relations decades later, the customs of Dongshan Province have become the last persistence of clan affection.

Li Ye chatted with Teacher Ke, but Xiao Baoer and Xiao Douer were in trouble.

After Xiao Baoer got the New Year's money, he instinctively looked at Wen Leyu, but was kicked by his sister Xiao Douer.

Xiao Baoer quickly lowered his head and followed his sister away. Li Ye couldn't help laughing when he didn't dare to say anything.

Wen Leyu's mouth corners were already raised, and he watched Xiao Baoer's performance with a smile.

Just yesterday, Xiao Baoer gave the New Year's money to Wen Leyu, why did he change his mind today?

It's obvious that he was coerced by Xiao Douer, the little bully!

Xiaodouer has always had a bigger appetite than his brother and walks earlier than his brother. He must be stronger than his brother because he runs around all day. It is too easy to bully Xiaobaoer when no one is around.

Xiaodouer ran around grandma's house as if nothing had happened, and asked while running: "Grandma, why didn't my little cousin come?"

Teacher Ke smiled and said: "Your little cousin went to her grandma's house! She won't come until at least in the afternoon!"

"At least? What kind of horse to ride? A horse that runs fast on four legs?"

"Hahaha~"

Teacher Ke was amused by this quirky granddaughter.

But Wen Leyu said: "Mom, don't be confused by her, she is secretly hiding the New Year's money!"

"Huh?"

After receiving Wen Leyu's reminder, Teacher Ke called the two grandsons and granddaughters over, and found that the New Year's money given to the two children just now was not with them.

Teacher Ke was a little surprised and said, "Xiao Dou'er, the New Year's money I just gave you was lost so quickly?"

Xiao Dou'er was still too young after all, and she was no match for Teacher Ke.

She stared at Teacher Ke blankly, her two bright big eyes blinking, as if she was showing off her long eyelashes to her grandma.

After several seconds, Xiao Dou'er suddenly climbed onto the sofa and whispered in Teacher Ke's ear: "Grandma, I put the money under your bed. I'll buy wine for Grandpa and candy for you in the future."

Teacher Ke narrowed his eyes: "Oh? Then how about we share the candy?"

Xiao Dou'er nodded vigorously: "Yes, my grandpa will eat it too."

"Oh, your grandpa also has a share! Then why do you keep the money with me?"

Teacher Ke asked while looking at Wen Leyu, which meant "Why doesn't this child trust you as a mother?"

As a result, Xiao Dou'er answered immediately: "Because you are the oldest in the family, you don't want to be greedy for children's pocket money."

"Hahaha~"

Teacher Ke laughed heartily.

People like her may not have laughed like this once in a few months, but now they are laughing very happily.

Why do adults make it more likely to laugh when they are with their children? Because the laugh points the children say are always beyond expectations, and the laugh points in the sketch are designed.

Moreover, adults can see through the child's thoughts at a glance, and there is no need to plot against each other, and there is no pressure to smile.

After Teacher Ke finished laughing, he suddenly felt aroused in his heart and continued to ask, "Xiao Dou'er, who is the biggest in your family?"

Xiao Dou'er said without hesitation: "My grandma is the biggest."

Teacher Ke narrowed his eyes and asked with a smile, "Who is your mother or your father?"

Xiao Dou'er curled her lips and said, "My mother is the second largest in the family, and my dad is the youngest."

"Puff~"

Wen Leyu smiled and didn't forget to look at Li Ye.

"See it! You love your daughter the most, but you end up falling into a mess. Are you excited?"

“Ha~”

Li Ye chuckled lightly, not angry.

It’s a daughter slave! Very normal.

However, Teacher Ke's face became more correct.

Xiao Dou'er's words reflect two problems.

First, Wen Leyu is quite popular in her mother-in-law's house. After all, she has grandpa, grandma, father-in-law, and a few sister-in-law at home, but she can rank as the "second largest".

Teacher Ke doesn’t think Wen Leyu should rank first, otherwise Pan Xiaoying would be bigger than her when she arrived at Wen’s house?

But it is abnormal for Li Ye to make a living.

So Teacher Ke pushed Xiao Baoer and Xiao Douer to Wen Qingsheng: "Go and see the toys your grandfather prepared for you, then go and see your grandfather's wine, choose a bottle and take it for your father to drink. ”

"Okay, I know Moutai and Wuliangye."

Xiao Dou'er followed Wen Qingsheng excitedly.

Teacher Ke turned his head and said seriously: "Xiaoyu, don't be too arrogant at home in the future. Pay attention to maintaining Li Ye's parental image. The children are very sensitive. If they form an illusion, it will be difficult to do so. Correct it,

Never let your children underestimate their fathers. Let them know their father’s efforts and greatness. This is an important foundation for family harmony. How can Li Ye sit in the middle of the family at home? He is the biggest! ”

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Wen Leyu also began to blink like Xiao Dou'er just now, blinking and glanced at Wen Qingsheng.

Of course, the child is very sensitive, otherwise how can he tell who is "bigger" between Wen Qingsheng and Teacher Ke!

You should know that in the Wen family, Wen Qingsheng is not the "boss", and Teacher Ke is the one who is talking about it.

When Teacher Ke saw Wen Leyu's eyes, he was angry and smiled. He reached out and poked his daughter and said, "Your father usually gives in to me, but think about it, is he an old man at home?"

Wen Leyu was stunned, thought about it carefully, and suddenly remembered the past days.

At that time, she and her mother were in Qingshui County and could not see Wen Qingsheng all day long. The ideas that Teacher Ke instilled in her on weekdays were all the time. Wen Qingsheng was the head of the family and worked hard to persevere in the north for the hope of the family.

Even if Teacher Ke is now at the position, he is a little higher than Wen Qingsheng, but no matter whether Wen Leyu and Wen Qingsheng really tell who is the "head of the household" in the family, the brother and sister will naturally choose Wen Qing. Sheng.

This is the face that Teacher Ke protects for the masters in the family.

But Wen Leyu still felt a little wronged.

"But this is not bad for me! If you don't believe me, please ask Li Ye, when did I become arrogant at home? I am very virtuous."

Teacher Ke pointed to Li Ye and said, "You have a responsibility for this matter. If you spoil Xiaoyu, you must have a degree. Two people live forever. If they are subtly moved, Xiaoyu will become arrogant without realizing it. , and then affects the child.”

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Wen Leyu's mouth pouted, and he stared at Li Ye hard, clearly saying, "It's all your fault."

To be honest, Wen Leyu is indeed very virtuous and never fights with Li Ye. His occasional temper is also harsh and weak on the inside. In the end, Li Ye makes a profit.

But everyone in the old Li family respected her very much, but they called Li Ye around and drank. Xiao Dou'er saw it every day, and then she had the illusion that her father was far inferior to her mother.

But Li Ye admired Teacher Ke very much.

Decades later, someone specialized in researching a question, which is why children at home prefer to communicate with their mothers and ignore their fathers’ love.

In fact, they have been implanted with the consciousness of "mom is very hard-working" since they were young, and they have to make decisions about family matters in the end, so their father naturally becomes an optional transparent person.

Even if the father demonstrates the important value of a "wallet" when he is asked for it, it cannot regain the "great" image in the hearts of the children.

If you don’t believe it, look at the children who are preparing to get married.

"Dad, Xiaoli wants a 188,000-yuan bride price."

"Dad, Xiaoli's best friend bought a car worth 200,000."

"Dad, Xiaoli said that for the sake of her children's future education, she would buy a school district house in the city center."

"Mom, Xiaoli said she wanted hardware..."

"Get out, go find your dad!"

At this time, who was the hardest-working person?

Moreover, if the family’s financial conditions are not good, the child is likely to resent his father and is useless, but he will not resent his mother.

However, as Wen Leyu's mother, Teacher Ke noticed this problem and immediately asked Wen Leyu not to be "too arrogant" at home and give Li Ye some face.

This is the way of education of an enlightened mother. Those mothers who teach their daughters how to scheme against their husbands are short-sighted fools who will only harm their daughters in the end.